9.999

I was talking to few good friends one day. Our topic was about rating a person from 1 to 10. They said that some ladies around the place has ratings of 3, 7, 5 and etc. One of them mentioned that somebody has rated me a 9! And that 9 excludes feelings. Talking directly to one of them, I asked how he would rate me, without feelings. It was almost a perfect 10. He gave me a 9.999. It is flaterring. A 9 and a 9.999! Hmmmm...

Rating a person. To rate a person, standards should be set. But whose standards? How do we gauge a person? By the looks? by the character? by the discipline? by the talent? by intelligence? Most of the time, when we rate a person, it is not really about the person that we describe. It is ourselves that we define, what we see and how we feel about others. So it is all about ourselves. Our own standards.

Define standard. Standard as a noun means a level of quality. Standard as an adjective means of a usual, medium, or accepted kind. Based on the ratings I was given, I am a woman of a very high level of quality, or a woman of an accepted kind. But who gave those ratings? Are they beauty pros? Have they seen/learnt a lot to qualify to even rate a person? If they are not, then they based it on one's self. One has to look at themselves first, rate themselves. Who is a 10? Compare yourself with the 10. Where will be you be? Can you do that? Honestly, I can't.

I have seen a lot, met a lot of people, talked to many. I realized that each one has a unique personality, unique beauty, unique identity that cannot be compared with another person. When I rate a person, I am rating myself. I know myself better than anybody else. I only can compare another person to myself. When I rate a person 7.5, that means I am 10. 10 is my self love - the love for my looks, the love for my ability, love for my incapabilities. And 7.5 means I love that person just a bit less than myself.