"Ate😭😭😭! Ang sakit-sakit! Nakasabay ko sya sa jeep, Ang dami nyang kiss marks." This message was sent to me through fb messenger. Those words were enough for me to realize the torture, the pain, the agony this person was going through. Let us name this girl Alish.
I do not really remember how I met Alish. We used to be from the same community based on her family background. Checking her friends list, we have a number of common friends. We even went to the same school. I must have met her before. But, maybe-just maybe, because I was away for a long time, I cannot fully remember her anymore.
She separated from her legal husband and had just broken up with a live-in partner. She described herself as a battered wife/partner. She told me her story and expressed her passion to become a volunteer for the election. This, she said, would help her divert her focus, keep her mind busy and become a useful citizen all at the same time. She told me she is working at a semi-conductor company.
She joined us at the Volunteer Hub and I introduced her to few people there. She joined us a couple of times in our house to house campaign. She seemed a fine lady. Easily got befriended at the volunteer hub.
From time to time she would whisper to me "Ate nagme-message sya lagi. Gusto nya daw makipag-balikan." I could feel that she still love the man. She was on her phone every minute replying to his chats and I could feel she was confused whether to give in or not.
I once asked her "Di ka pa ba pagod sa pambubugbog sa iyo? Sabi mo sobra na ang foul words nya na di mo masikmura. At physically sinasaktan ka din nya. Hindi kayo kasal. Pwede ka pang umalis sa relationship na ito. In fact naka-alis ka na. Dapat ka pa bang bumalik?"
A friend priest once told me. After we die, there is heaven and there is hell. But it is your choice to live in hell even while you are still on earth. And he has a point. If the relationship is not making you any better, happy person, LEAVE! Find the path that will prepare you to heaven...path that will make you a pleasant person, a person who can be a blessing to other people, a person at peace.
I told her to block his number and avoid him in all possible way. I truly felt that she deserves to have a life where she will be loved and respected.
She got into few troubles and became financially in need. She approached one of our co-volunteers for help. Kakampinks are genuinely helpful, not just because they are identified with VPLeni. I witnessed that in a lot of different instances. They are generous, ready to give help, share what they can if they see people are really in need. One of them lent money to her and Alish was sincerely thankful.
Few days later, we found out that she was approaching Kakampinks from Kakampinks borrowing money simultaneously. The promised payment dates never came. We alerted people we know to avoid her or not to lend her money. We tried to save them their hard earned money.
In this difficult time, there are people who will play victims to win your trust. They will explore your emotions and enter into the core of your virtuous self until you see yourself as a caring, right-minded, protective friend willing to comfort a lost, depressed soul.
We viewed that it was her great plan. She was not there to be a volunteer. She was there to know people who she can scam. She put on a cogent drama for us to allow her in. After some researches, we learned what she really is. She was described as "spreading havoc". We were victimized. Though our initial intention was to help, others would probably call us gullible.
Note to self and reminder to all : FACT CHECK not only the real Phils history or the socmed posts but also the people you meet each day. If there are FAKE NEWS and trolls in the world of social media, be cautious! There are REAL PERSONS with FAKE PERSONALITIES in the REAL WORLD who in any minute are ready to exploit you.
#talesoftwokakampinks
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