When we meet a person who we are attracted to, we have the tendency to accept what he/she is. We see the differences between us as something interesting. We take the differences as blessings, "Hey, there will be a lot to learn about each other." We enjoy the other person's company and find it exciting to know there's somebody we can accept and somebody who can accept us, no matter what. We build a relationship, a relationship bonded by acceptance(?).
Allow more time for this relationship, the little negatives which we said we already accepted from the start will be so noticed and discussed. We do not mean any harm but we are hoping to somehow tell this person there is something we do not agree about him/her and is worth changing. "You have the tendency to be always childish. " Not very offensive remark to say but we do not know how the other party will feel. Although we mean good, it may come not good for the receiver. Weatherproofing, that is. When we weatherproof our house, we look for the cracks, leaks and anything that we can patch and fix to keep our house stable, liveable and maintained. This is not applicable to persons. Weatherproofing a person means finding out mistakes, faults, differences that we want to fix. What for? So he/she can be up to our standard. This creates problem than making the foundation of the relationship stronger.
Best about relationship weatherproofing? No can do.
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